Some recent comments this blog has received from individuals who are employed as nursing home administrators lead me to believe that I’ve offended some of these folks, let alone possibly hurt some feelings.  Perhaps an explanation and disclaimer are needed at this point.

First, let me be clear that I do not “hate” nursing home administrators.  However because of my experience with several administrators during the time my mother lived in various nursing homes, I must also state that I ended up being very disappointed by the vast majority of them and would have a very hard time trusting an administrator any time soon!  When you are lied to, when your loved one’s rights are violated, when you are screamed at and threatened in retaliation for going to the state with concerns, when you told that your going to the state has created a “hostile working environment” and when problems with your loved one’s care aren’t really fixed (or aren’t fixed for more than a few days at a time)…Well, I think it only appropriate and good self-care to be slowwwww to administrators ever again.

Do I think that all nursing home administrators are “bad people” or “more bad than most other people”?  I’ll let God answer these kinds of questions, on an individual basis, as I believe God is the ultimate judge of people’s hearts and intentions. All I know is that of the nursing home administrators I’ve personally dealt with, most seem to lack integrity — let alone compassion — for the residents they serve and the family members they deal with.

At the same time I will offer a word of compassion for nursing home administrators as it seems that many of them are clearly under enormous pressure as they deal with residents, family members, owners, state regulations and state inspectors (a/k/a “surveyors”) and employees.  Probably many of them work enough hours each week and are under such a mountain of stress that they likely deserve every penny they earn.  I have a feeling that some administrators would do a much better job if the nursing home owners would stop trying to micromanage them and let them do their job!

Speaking of “pennies that are earned”, the people who seem to me to be most deserving of a raise are the certified nurese’s aides — truly these people are the front line caregiver in a nursing home setting — yet they are typically the lowest paid of all nursing home employees.  This isn’t just!  They deserve to earn more money (while being held accountable for their job performance) and nurses should treat their CNAs with more respect than I’ve seen them treated with.